As a mom, I have always believed in no screen time for my children. I want them to engage with the real world, explore, and develop naturally without the constant distraction of screens. But the reality of modern parenting doesn’t always align with ideals.

There are moments when screen time becomes inevitable—when there’s no extra help at home, when work deadlines are piling up, or when I just need a moment to catch my breath. In these situations, the challenge isn’t just reducing screen time but managing it in a mindful way.

Strategies That Have Helped Me

Over time, I’ve found a few practical ways to limit screen time while still being realistic:

1. Giving My Toddler the Option to Switch Off
   Instead of forcefully taking the screen away, I ask my toddler, “Would you like to turn it off yourself?” This gives her a sense of control and reduces resistance. More often than not, she agrees.
2. Gentle Distraction
   I start talking to my toddler about things she loves—like oranges or a game she played with her friend—while quietly taking the phone or tablet away. Shifting her focus makes the transition smoother without meltdowns.
3. Creating Engaging Alternatives
   When I anticipate needing time to work, I set up activities that don’t require my constant involvement—such as coloring, puzzles, or sensory play. If she’s occupied, she doesn’t ask for a screen.
4. Using Screens as a Last Resort, Not the First Option
   I try to exhaust all other possibilities before handing over a device. Sometimes, just changing the environment—like moving to a different room or stepping outside—helps break the cycle of screen dependence.

The Reality: It’s About Balance, Not Perfection

I still strongly believe in minimizing screen time, but I’ve also learned to be kind to myself when I have no other choice. Some days, work demands more of my time, and using a screen for a short while helps me get things done.

What matters most is that screen time doesn’t become the default—but rather an occasional tool, managed with intention.

To all the parents trying to navigate this, know that it’s okay to find a middle ground. We don’t have to be perfect; we just have to be thoughtful.